Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Modesty and Christianity

With the 90's trend of crop tops, short shorts, and other summer clothes, where do I draw the line? 
Is it okay to have my bra show a little? What about those short shorts that show a little booty? Well to answer these questions I want to define what modesty is and delve deeper into what it means to be modest by sharing the reasoning that I personally abide by as a Christian. (However, these are applicable to any woman!)

Modesty and clothing means not being overtly sexual when dressed. Follow this golden guideline: If you show your legs, then don't show cleavage and vice versa. Being overtly sexual may also mean that you are showing too much of either, so make sure that the shorts aren't too short and the neckline isn't plunging. I have guidelines for shorts here. Also following are the reasons why I believe in modesty and how that ties to me being a Christian.

1. I do not want the way that I dress to be a stumbling block to others. 

We put no stumbling block in anyone's path, so that our ministry will not be discredited.
2 Corinthians 6:3

People are receptive to what they see and they notice more then we often think. I don't want to ever dress in a way that would cause men to think lustful thoughts so that means no under garments showing, period. After speaking to men, I also believe that too much leg can also be another thing that can cause men to stumble. I remember wearing my first pair of too short shorts when I was in junior high and a guy pulled up his car to whistle at me. Lets just say it was a degrading experience. If you believe that men never think "her legs are NICE" or that they don't notice the boobs when too much cleavage is showing, then let me inform you now and tell you that they do.

Not only can dressing overtly sexual be a stumbling block to men but for women as well by innately letting other women think that it is okay. If their Christian sister dresses like this, it can't be THAT bad right? Wrong. Being a Christian comes with a responsibility as a role model and unintentionally leading other women towards being overtly sexual is wrong. Having your bra show or wearing too short of a skirt can also cause women to be more distracted about your clothing as well.

2. I do not want to express self degradation as I see my body as a temple of Christ.

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18

Most people think "I don't dress like a hooker" when they wear that super see-through shirt and bright bra which I totally understand. But then again what do you think of when you picture a prostitute? Let me guess: super revealing clothes and undergarments showing. I know God loves prostitutes too, but He also tells us to flee from sexual immorality. I don't want to be pictured that way which is why I avoid super revealing cuts, too short shorts, and see through shirts. As a Christian, I actively work against sexually immorality and I show this by covering strategically and appropriately because I treasure my body. I do not dress to please men but to express myself and God takes part in that. You don't need to dress less to impress. Don't let what other people wear convince you otherwise. 

3. I do not let society decide what I wear.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Just because a celebrity wore it does not mean that it's okay. Just because I saw it on a fashion magazine does not meant that I'll automatically follow it. Even if I see a bunch of people wearing it, I still can disapprove when a trend is worn a certain way. Why? Because society should not be making our decisions of what is right and wrong regarding our dress choices. I challenge you to ask yourself why you think it is okay whenever you see a crop top that shows the entire belly or see the hook of the bra at the back of a revealing shirt or dress. If it's "Cause I've seen other people do it" then I will respond with saying that does not mean that it is okay. Let God check your heart and tell you what you should wear, not the world. 

I know that this post may come with conviction and I encourage you to give it up to God through prayer. As role models in Christ, we must be aware of the power our bodies have and give up these expressions to God as well (This applies to men too!). Christianity and modesty go hand in hand but that does not mean that we cannot wear trends as long as we are aware of the influences behind them. May God allow this awareness to spread throughout different aspects of your life so that you may grow more in your relationship with Him.

Much Love,

Deborah Cho

P.S. What are your thoughts on Christianity and modesty? Comment below! 

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